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David Trickey Hello, my name is David Trickey. I’m a Consultant Clinical Psychologist, and Co-Director of the UK Trauma Council. I’ve been specialising in working with traumatised children, young people and their families for over 20 years, and what I’d like to do in this presentation is speak with you about what it is that makes an event traumatic. So, many children, young people and families will experience difficult or adverse events, but what is that makes one of those events actually traumatic for them? And I’m going to use a particular psychological theory, and then, of course, we’ll also think about what can we do to help to reduce the impact of those events?
And before I do this, just check in with yourself, you know, I don’t know what’s happened in your past, or what’s going on for you now, but I do know that we’ll be talking about trauma, and as nice human beings, as compassionate people, we should be moved when we think about trauma. But if, for whatever reason, you start to have stronger emotional reactions than you’re happy with, or you start to feel overwhelmed, please do take responsibility for yourself to look after yourself. Do what you need to do, whether that’s step away and do this on another day, or perhaps think things through before you move onto whatever your next activity is.
I just wanted to say a little bit about the UK Trauma Council. This is a project where we try to create resources to help those of us doing the direct work with young people, or those around the young people, so that we can help them have the best chance possible of recovering from any events that they’ve experienced. So, our focus is on those people around them, whether that’s Social Workers, or Foster Carers, or Therapists, or Teachers, we try to guide policy, so that those making policy decisions can make well informed decisions and, mainly, we provide a lot of free and accessible resources and guidance.
We don’t just make these ideas up. We draw very much on the research evidence, and we work very closely with the intended audience, whether that’s young people themselves, or Foster Carers or Teachers. We have a group of child trauma experts from around the United Kingdom, and we also work closely with our Youth Advisory Board, which is made up of young people with lived experience of trauma. The sorts of resources that we’ve produced recently include things such as Childhood Trauma, the Brain and the Social World, but really tries to explain how a young person’s brain adapts to their experience and how that might cause problems later on. We’ve got some resources on Traumatic Bereavement aimed at schools and Clinicians. We have some resources about Childhood Trauma and PTSD, that includes some animations written with young people, aimed for young people, to help them understand what PTSD is and what might help. We have resources for schools and colleges and other educational communities, thinking about critical incidents and how they can provide the best environment for recovery.
We also have resources on Childhood Trauma, War, Migration and Asylum. This includes an animation aimed at young people to help them really understand how their traumatic past might be impacting on them, and what can they do to move forwards with that. We also have resources there for schools and community organisations, helping them to work out how can they best assist young people seeking asylum. We’ve got a couple of policy guides for people making policy decisions, and we also have a whole group of resources to really help people put research into practice. This would include short explainer videos, regular roundups of the research and, occasionally, we will do a topic-based research roundup. We have one on Racism, Mental Health and Trauma, really trying to understand, what does the evidence tell us about this topic? And, also, more recently, we’ve produced one on Developmental Trauma Disorder. So what does the evidence say about this as a topic and is this useful, you know, what do we know about it?
So, before we think about how a potentially traumatic event might affect people, let’s think about how many young people would experience difficult events. So, here’s 100 young people, in reality, in my experience is they don’t normally line up quite as uniformly as that. So here’s 100 young people, and if we stick to the DSM-5 definition of trauma for post-traumatic stress disorder, that would be “actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence,” and, in fact, what we find is about a third, 31% of them – this is taken from a research study in England and Wales, would be exposed to that type of event by the time they get to 18.
But that’s quite a high bar, that’s a very specific definition of trauma. But if we broaden our definition of a potentially traumatic event to include being threatened, hit or hurt badly, or coerced or forced sexual activity, or bullying, both in-person, but also online, then actually we see many more young people will have been exposed to those sorts of events. Up to about 83% in one study in the UK. Now, how do we define trauma? Well, the UK Trauma Council would suggest that trauma is “an experience or experiences that overwhelm one’s ability to cope, resulting in enduring and negative reactions.” So, these are not just difficult, distressing events that lead to temporary upset or problems. These are things that overwhelm someone’s capacity to cope, and actually leads to something that’s going to last some time.
And you could think about different trajectories or paths if you want to. There’ll be some people who’ve experienced a potentially traumatic event, and actually seem pretty unaffected; they seem to sail through it. There’ll be some where they experience traumatic events, but then they seem to do okay, but then later on, they start to develop problems. There’ll be some that develop difficulties or distress and these last and endure over time, and there’ll be a big chunk of young people that would experience potentially traumatic events and they start off struggling, they may have a lot of distress or a lot of difficulties, but over time, in fact, they recover spontaneously.
And what I really want to do is think with you about what is it that makes that distress and those difficulties last? What are the mechanisms behind what’s going on for the young person, that mean that the difficulties will last over time? And one way that we can think about those mechanisms is to think about the Cognitive Model of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. And this doesn’t just explain reactions that result in PTSD, it actually, I think, helps us to understand how potentially traumatic events affect a young person, and all sorts of different reactions that they may have.
And the model is based broadly on two papers about adult trauma and PTSD, and Meiser-Stedman weaved these two approaches together and thought specifically about children and young people. And the story goes, because a model is just a story, that if you are traumatised by an event, if you have a lasting, negative reaction, and it might be because of the memories you have for those events, or it might be because of the meaning that you give to those events, and often those two things will work together, memory and meaning, and then the difficulties are maintained usually by a process of avoidance.
I don’t know if this model is truthful. I don’t know if this is what really happens in the minds of children and young people following potentially traumatic events, but I do know that it’s useful, because it helps us understand how people react to traumatic events, not just PTSD. It helps us understand why some people will struggle and others don’t, so all of the risk factors that increase the likelihood of difficulties. It helps us understand what we should be looking for in our assessments, and helps us understand why some approaches to support an intervention seem to be effective.
So, let’s think about the memory bit of this story first. Have you ever had that experience where you’re walking along the road and a memory suddenly falls into your consciousness? You didn’t fetch it on purpose, but perhaps something in your environment triggered it and, suddenly, there it is. Now, most of us have had that experience at some point, but most of us don’t have it most of the time, because it would be chaos. We wouldn’t be able to function if our memories just kept falling into our consciousness. So, we seem to have developed a preference for keeping our memories at bay until we need them, then when we’re finished with them, we put them back.
And I was explaining this to a 14-year-old many years ago, I was talking about evolution. I said, “If you’re running away from a dinosaur and you just keep remembering everything, you’ll get eaten. You’ll be running away and you’ll be thinking, oh, do you remember that game of football we had down there, do you remember that picnic we had up there?” Those people would be distracted and not survive. The people that could put their memories to one side and run, they would be the people that survive and have children with similar sorts of brains. This was my description of evolution, and I’m very lucky that I work with some very patient 14-year-olds, and she said, “That’s an interesting story, but I’ve got two problems with it. The first is that humans and dinosaurs didn’t exist at the same time,” which was news to me, and she said, “and, anyway, I believe that God made us like this.” And I said, “Well, didn’t he do a good job,” because whatever story you have, broadly speaking, we know that our memories for normal events will stay put until we need them. So, if I asked you about the last time you went to the cinema, you would locate your cinema memory, bring it into your consciousness, tell us the story of going to the cinema, and then we’d move on and you’d put that memory away.
Now, Professor Brewin calls these “contextualised representations,” or “C-reps,” these are memories for normal events. And we know quite a lot about these normal event memories. We know that they consist of words and stories, so when I tell you that story of that young person I worked with, I don’t remember the data of the event. I don’t remember what time of year it was, how cold it was. I don’t remember the sound of her voice or what room we were in. What I remember is the narrative, the story, that’s the bit that comes into mind when I tell the story.
And normal event memories are pretty coherent and complete, so they don’t tend to have gaps, and if they do, we may well fill those gaps in, and they, sort of, make sense, and they stay put until deliberately recalled. So, I deliberately bring that story to mind, tell you the story and then put it back, I’m not going to be thinking about that event later on today. I mean, I roughly know when normal events happened, back there and back then, and they might change over time. Our memories are pretty unreliable in some ways, and any original emotion will often fade from the event, and they tend to be linked to other memories, and they’re welcomed, or at least tolerated, even if they’re unpleasant events, we can normally tolerate the memory.
But at times of extreme horror, or helplessness, or shame, or pain, or terror, then, actually, at those moments, we’re in a different mode and, as a result, memories for those events get stored in a different format. They get stored as the vivid data of the events, the sights, the sounds, the smells, the tastes, the touches, the pain, the feelings, and the thoughts. And memories for those events tend to be fragmented or jumbled. They don’t have that smooth coherent narrative. They have this moment and that moment.
And they tend to be very volatile. They’re very easily triggered, or they might just have a bit of a mind of their own and intrude into our consciousness. And when they come to mind, doesn’t feel like it was back there and back then, it might feel like it was just yesterday, or even here again now. These memories tend to be locked in, they don’t tend to change over time, and the original distress is activated often at the same intensity of the actual event. And they tend to be isolated from other memories and, of course, they tend to be avoided.
Brewin would call these “sensory bound representations,” and they fall into consciousness, we don’t like that, so we push them away. And because we push them away, we don’t get to store them in the same way. And then people get stuck in an internal avoidance trap, so you might think of this as a maintenance cycle, this unprocessed memory intrudes into consciousness, that’s its nature, bringing with it the original fear or horror or helplessness, and, of course, people try not to think about it. They try to suppress those memories. But because they don’t think it through, they don’t get to process the memory and change its format, and then that very act of avoidance actually triggers the thing people are trying to forget.
And people also get stuck in an external avoidance trap, where these unprocessed memories are very easily triggered, which is really unpleasant. So, people avoid triggers, they avoid places, people, activities, that might trigger those memories. And that means they don’t have that chance to think it through again. If you went down the same street where something awful had happened, you’d probably be thinking, well, this happened and that happened and that happened, it’s a way of processing what happened, but, understandably, you avoid it, so you don’t get that chance to think it through. But, again, that act of avoidance actually triggers the thing you’re trying to avoid. One boy said to me, “It’s like a boomerang, the harder I throw it away, the harder it comes back and hits me.” I don’t think that this is a brand new discovery or invention of two different memory systems. Pierre Janet, more than 100 years ago, was talking about the same sorts of phenomenon. He was talking about fixed ideas of traumatic events rather than usual memories, and people can’t make the recital, they can’t tell the story, which is what we would think of as a normal memory, and yet they remain confronted by it. So, it’s a very old idea.
Now, interestingly, there’s a questionnaire called the “Trauma Memory Quality Questionnaire,” and this assesses the number of aspects of a memory that are characteristic of traumatic memories. So, for example, it says, “I can’t seem to put the frightening event into words,” and the young person rates how much they agree with that statement. “I remember the frightening event as a few moments, and each moment is a picture.” And what’s really interesting is the higher your score on this questionnaire, the more likely you are to have PTSD, and the worse your PTSD seems to be.
And you can do that even longitudinally, so you can predict someone’s later PTSD based on an earlier score on this questionnaire. Now, to me, this really supports the idea there’s something about the quality of the memory that is driving distress, particularly PTSD symptoms. And just as another way to illustrate this point, there was a study a little while ago where adults with post-traumatic stress disorder were in a br – put in a brain scanner and different types of memories were deliberately triggered. And once they’d done this quite a few times, including the traumatic memories, they could see which parts of the brain are only activated by certain memories. And what they found was that Broca’s area, one of the language centres of the brain, is only activated by neutral memories, not by trauma memories.
So, they’d be lying in the brain scanner, and the Researcher would be prompting different memories, “Do you remember the time you went to the cinema?” Broca’s area comes online. “Do you remember the time you went shopping?” Broca’s area comes online. “Do you remember the time you were sexually assaulted?” Broca’s area doesn’t come online. So, when we sometimes say, “Some events are too terrible for words,” in a way, that’s what this brain scan shows. And then they also found that there were various parts of the brain that were only activated by the trauma memories, not by neutral memories, and in particular, the amygdala, which you might think of as the alarm centre of the brain, is only activated when those trauma memories are brought to mind. So, again, we see more support here for the idea that we have these two different types of memory systems.
So, how do we explain this to children, young people and families? Well, we have a number of stories. The first story is about a chocolate factory. The chocolate factory takes the ingredients, the sugar, the milk, the cocoa, mixes them up and creates a chocolate bar, and then puts a wrapper around it. And on the wrapper, you have words on the outside that tells you what’s on the inside, it says, “Ingredients,” and it lists the ingredients. And in some ways our brains are similar. We take the sights, the smells, the tastes, the touches of an experience, and we create a memory, and then we wrap it up with a narrative, so you have words on the outside that tells you about the contents, about what’s on the inside.
But with the chocolate factory, if the sugar was not ground down enough, it’s too lumpy, or if the milk was too hot, the machinery would not be able to cope with those ingredients. It wouldn’t be able to mix them together, and it would grind to a halt, and you’d end up with the ingredients swilling around on the factory floor. And, similarly, if we experience an event that is overwhelming, that we can’t cope with, that we can’t process, then we end up with the elements of that experience, the sights, the smells, the tastes, the touches, swilling around in our minds.
So, with a chocolate factory, you might get someone into help, you might just wait until the milk is cooled down, or you might need to take the sugar and grind it down into smaller pieces, and then you can start to mix the ingredients and create your chocolate bars. And, similarly, with potentially traumatic events, you might get someone to help you think it through. You might just wait until it’s less frightening, or you might need to take those experiences and break them down into smaller pieces, and then you can start to process your memories.
And the next story we tell is about a wardrobe. So, if you imagine a wardrobe, you have all your clothes put away, when you need them you take them out, wash them – wear them and wash them, very occasionally iron them, and then you put them back, and they can stay put, and you close the door and get on with life. And, similarly, you have all your different memories stored away, when you need them, you bring them out, when you’re finished with them, you put them back, and they pretty much stay put. But with the wardrobe, if someone threw you a duvet and it was full of stinging nettles and they said, “Put it away quick,” and you shove it in the back of the wardrobe, and it hurts to hold onto it, so you’re really trying to get rid of it, but it’s not put away properly, and it keeps bulging out. And if you keep your hand on the door and keep it closed, it might stay put, but every time you take your hand off it falls out and it hurts you again, and you have to shove it back in the wardrobe.
And, similarly, if you experience a potentially traumatic event, you might try really hard not to think about it and shove it in the back of your mind, and if you keep yourself really busy it might stay there. But perhaps between going to bed and going to sleep, or other moments when you least expect it, it’ll fall back into your consciousness and hurt you again, and you try not to think about it, you’re trying to shove it back. So with the wardrobe and the duvet, you might get something to help you. You need to take hold of it, which might be painful, you need to fold it up neatly, you might have to move things around on your shelves, then you can put it away, and it’ll stay put. And, similarly, with potentially traumatic events, you might get someone in to help you, you need to take hold of that memory and think it through. You might have to adjust the way you see yourself, the world, and others, but then you can put it away, and then it’ll stay put.
I was explaining this to another very patient 14-year-old a few years ago, and I was explaining why I thought it might be a good idea to do some more trauma-focused work, where we deliberately think about what had happened to him. And I told him these two stories, and he said, “It’s a bit like that, David, but, actually, it’s more like this.” And he got the wastepaper bin, and he put it on the desk, and he filled it up with scrunched up pieces of paper, and he said, “These are all the bad things that have happened to me, and as I walk to school, they fall in front of my eyes, and when I lie down and go to bed, they fall into my dreams. And when I come and see you, we take them out of the bin and we unscrunch them, then we read them through carefully and we fold them up neatly and we put them back in the bin. But because they’re folded up neatly, it means they don’t fall out of the top, and I’ve got more room in my head to think about other things.” And I was sat there with my notes going, “What’s that last bit about more room in your head?” And then more recently, I was working with a young boy who had experienced something awful, and he kept having these flashbacks, where he could re-feel the sensations of what had happened, and he really wanted them to stop, and he really didn’t want to talk or think about what had happened. And I just wanted to sow the seed of the idea that at some point, with somebody, it might be useful to think these things through.
And I told him some of these stories, and halfway through one of them, he closed his eyes and put his hands up to his head. I said, “Are you okay?” He said, “Yeah, yeah,” he said, “I think I’ve got it, is it like this? On my laptop I’ve got a load of jpeg files, some of them are corrupted, the rest are massive files, they take up loads of room, and they keep making things crash. Are you saying if I take the jpegs of what happened to me, and I write them out and I save them as a Word document on my hard drive, then that will stop making things crash?” And I said, “Yeah, that’s exactly what we’re talking about, we’re going to change the format of the file. We can’t delete it, but we can change the format, and that will mean that it behaves differently.” So, that’s the memory bit of the story.
If we now think about the meaning bit, broadly speaking, we have different thoughts, different beliefs, different assumptions, about the way that things are supposed to work. We have assumptions about ourselves being, kind of, nice enough and worthy enough and loveable enough. We have assumptions about the world being benevolent, broadly speaking, and making sense, and for most of us it’s safe enough. We have assumptions about other people being trustworthy and worth relating to and these assumptions are very much unconscious most of the time. They’re unarticulated, we just behave as if they were true.
And you could think about those assumptions and beliefs as a lens that colours the way that we see things, and it will lead to certain thoughts and feelings and actions. And, broadly speaking, the way that we perceive things will very often strengthen our beliefs, because that lens can act as a filter, that filters out anything that doesn’t fit, or it can twist and distort things so that it does fit, ‘cause we prefer to hold onto these assumptions, rather than change them each time something happens.
But if something comes along that is too big to ignore and we can’t explain it away, well, then it does change the way that we see things, and we end up with a new set of beliefs, a new set of assumptions, about ourself, the world, and others, and even when that event has passed, we’re now left with a different way of seeing things. And then we see the world differently, we see people, ourselves, the world, in a different way, a different lens, and then we have different thoughts, different feelings, and different actions. And, again, our actions and our perception may well strengthen our trauma-based beliefs, and I’m going to give some examples in a moment that will show what I mean by this.
[Pause] But before I do that, let’s just think about multiple events. So, it’s one thing to think if you have an okay view of yourself, the world and others, then a single event comes along and shatters those assumptions, but what about if it’s just one thing after another? But I still think the model is helpful, it’s just that our beliefs build up over time, based on repeated events. And then if those events stop, then actually we’re left with a different – or with a really particular view of the world, and that then colours the way that we see things.
And the sorts of beliefs and thoughts that people might have, it might be about themselves, thinking that they’re useless, or that they’re weak and fragile, or that event has now made them believe that they deserve bad things to happen to them, or that they are unlovable. They mi – may start to see the world as being completely unpredictable, you never know what’s going to happen next, or they might think that everywhere is dangerous. Not just that street at that moment, but actually the whole world is now dangerous, and they might think that nothing makes sense anymore.
They might start to believe that other people can’t be trusted, or other people are going to hurt them, or people they love aren’t going to stay around. They may have specific thoughts about the events themselves and believe that they are their fault, or they should have stopped them in some way. And sometimes those – these beliefs and thoughts will carry on, and it’s those things, this meaning that they’ve made, that causes the problems. And there’s another questionnaire called the “Child Post-Traumatic Cognitions Inventory,” that has 25 very bold statements. “Anyone could hurt me, you never know what’s going to happen next,” and the young person rates how much they agree with these different statements. What’s interesting is the higher your score on this questionnaire, the more likely you are to have PTSD and the worse your PTSD tends to be. And, again, this seems to be a sound finding, even longitudinally, so you can predict someone’s future PTSD symptoms based on their earlier post-traumatic cognitions. So, this really supports the idea there’s something about the meaning-making that is really driving the distress and the difficulties.
Now, you may be thinking, this only really applies to single event trauma for young people who are, kind of, in an otherwise stable situation. That’s just not true. There’s some really nice research by Rachel Hiller, where she looked at children in care, and she found about a third of them had probable PTSD; this didn’t change over the year. But what was really interesting is their severity of PTSD and also complex features of PTSD were not associated with how big or bad their trauma was, with the severity of their maltreatment, nor was it associated with how old they were when they went into care.
What she found was that their PTSD symptoms, their distress, was associated with unbalanced and unhelpful meaning-making. The meaning-making was predictive of their symptoms, and avoidant coping and the quality of the memory. So, this idea of memory-meaning and maintenance seems to hold true in predicting distress, even in quite complicated populations. And I would suggest that it also helps us to understand the reactions of a system around the young person, it might be the families and the carers, it might be the school, it might be other professionals. Because, in fact, if you have a belief about the world being safe enough to let your child go off and play, or to let your child go off with someone, and then something happens to shatter that belief, that assumption, it makes sense that you would then be very protective or very controlling, because you now don’t know who you can trust. Or if you used to think that you could trust yourself to make good decisions about who is trustworthy and then that something awful happens, then you end up thinking, well, I don’t know who I can trust. I can’t even trust myself to make good decisions anymore.
So, again, for me as a Clinician, I might be working with a family who are very protective, and really want to get involved in the therapy, and don’t really want to leave their young person with me. Or you might have a system that feels completely overwhelmed. They used to think that they were good enough at what they did, something awful happens, and now they think, well, I obviously just can’t do this, so they back off, they don’t even bother trying. You might have a system that believes they might make it worse if you talk about it, so we don’t talk about it at all, and they – it’s the system that’s avoiding the conversations about the event, and not just the young person. Or you might get a family or a school or an organisation that becomes preoccupied with it, and is just always thinking it through, trying to make sense of it. But what often happens then is that they just keep going over the worst bits, without creating that complete, coherent narrative. Now, so what? Really important question. We have this model that seems to stand up to scrutiny for explaining how trauma works. Well, what are we going to do about it? Well, if we’re talking about post-traumatic stress disorder, PTSD, then, actually, the interventions based on this model, normally the trauma-focused CBT interventions, they seem to work pretty well. We’ve got some pretty strong evidence that this will work, not for everyone with PTSD, but for quite a few children and young people. So, if they do actually have PTSD, we need to make sure that they are being offered the right evidence-based intervention.
But what about other problems, other than PTSD, if we think about anxiety or depression or aggressive behaviour? Well, I think this model will also help us to understand some of those reactions. I worked with a girl once, she was about nine years old, she’d been abused by both of her biological parents, and that coloured the way that she saw things. She started to see the whole world as unsafe, that other people were dangerous. She would say, “particularly those who are supposed to look after you,” and she started to believe that she was unlovable.
She said to me in therapy that if it had just been one of her parents, it might have been about them, but it was both of them, so it must be about her. And eventually she was removed from her biological parents and she landed in this amazing foster placement. And the Social Worker said to me, “Yeah, I know that she was – she’d been abused, but she’s now in this amazing foster placement, why hasn’t that repaired her view of the world? Why hasn’t that helped her to recover?” And I think the model helps us to understand why that might be, because these lovely, lovely Foster Carers would approach her, try and love her, try and care for her, but she would see that care through her particular lens, and she would think, they’re going to hurt me, that’s why they’re trying to get close to me. She said to me, “They don’t love me, she’s just doing it for the money, and he’s going to hurt me sometime.” So, she would be very fearful and suspicious, very, kind of, hypervigilant and hyped up. She would lash out to keep them away from her, kicking and biting, and very sadly, eventually, the foster placement broke down, just confirming her view of herself, the world and others.
So, the other thing she said in therapy was that sometimes in her foster placement, the memory of her abuse would intrude, would remind her not to trust other people. So, here we see the memory and the meaning working together and, of course, also, when those traumatic memories intrude, they’re very upsetting and would lead to quite a strong physiological reaction, as well. So, if we wanted to help Sue, it might be that just a normal anxiety intervention, or working just with the attachment might not work, because she’s constantly got this memory reminding her not to trust people. So, to really help her, we might need to help her to reconsider her past, to recalibrate the meaning and iron out the memory, to really process through her memories.
What about aggressive behaviour? I work with one boy who experienced quite a lot of domestic violence. His stepfather would come home, hurt his mum many times, and sometimes hurt John and his little sister. And this repeated domestic violence led him to see the world in a certain way, of course. He started to believe that he was vulnerable, that the world was dangerous, and that other people are violent. And eventually when the mum was able to leave the stepdad, so they were now safe, he was left with this view of himself, the world and others, this was the legacy of his trauma.
And one day he was in the classroom and the Teacher raised his voice in the classroom, but the Teacher happened to be walking between the desks as he did that, and he happened to be holding his finger up, and he happened to catch John’s eye. And John, given his history, thought to himself, here comes an angry, adult male, and I know what they do, I know what adult males do when they’re angry. So, he had what some people call an amygdala hijack, and he lashed out at the Teacher. He said to me later, “I just felt I had to do it to him before he did it to me.” And the Teacher was somewhat surprised to be attacked, he, kind of, wrestled John off, tried to get him off him, which John then saw as more of an assault. He said, “See, I said he was going to attack me.” So, this whole incident just confirmed John’s idea about the world being unsafe, about him being vulnerable, about people, particularly adult males, being violent. And, again, when I was working with him, he was able to tell me that there was something about this Teacher in particular that would really trigger memories of his domestic violence. He said, “There’s something about the way he would raise an eyebrow that would just make me think about my stepdad.” And, again, of course, when those traumatic memories were intruding, that would lead to a very strong physiological reaction.
So, how do we help John? Based on this model, what are we going to do? Are we going to teach him some relaxation strategies? Yeah, maybe, but, actually, if we really want to help him, maybe we need to help those around him to understand a bit more about trauma, to understand the way that trauma affects children and young people, and that, yeah, it may look like they’re angry, but, actually, what it is, is they’re just on a high level of alert, and they see threat where the rest of us don’t see it. So, maybe we need to help those around John to see his behaviour, his actions, differently, to make different meaning of what it is that John’s doing. And then maybe we need to work with John, to help him again recalibrate his beliefs about himself, the world and others, and to do something with those memories so that they stop intruding.
What about traumatic bereavement, where there’s something about the traumatic nature of the death that is getting in the way of grieving the loss? I worked with one boy where a number of his family members had been ill during the pandemic, and eventually a grandparent died. So, these events really helped Omar to see the world as being dangerous, I mean, there was plenty of information around about how dangerous the world was, that he was vulnerable, his whole family seemed to be particularly susceptible, and that others can’t be trusted. There was something in the story about perhaps the Doctors hadn’t done all they could to help Omar’s grandfather.
So, when that event had passed, he was left with this particular view of the world, and when other schools were opening and pupils were returning to school, Omar would see that through his particular lens, and he would think, well, I’ll get it if I go out there, and I’ll die, or, I will infect other people. So, that, of course, would make him pretty terrified, he had strong panic reactions and, of course, in order to keep him and his family safe, he refused to return to school. He avoided his friends, and he became increasingly isolated. He hardly ever left the house. He stayed in his room most of the time, and he certainly hardly ever left the house. And this just maintained his unbalanced beliefs about how safe the world was. Now, of course, I’m not saying that the whole world is completely safe all of the time, but, for Omar, he overestimated how dangerous the world was and just would not leave the house.
There were also some traumatic memories of the death of his grandfather. He remembered very vividly the Paramedics coming up the stairs to get granddad, and he remembers the footsteps going up the stairs. He also imagined what it must have been like for his granddad when he died, and those images kept intruding and kept reminding him of how dangerous the world was. So, if you want to help Omar with his bereavement, to grieve the loss of his granddad, you really need to help him to process the event of the death first, so then he can bring to mind all his memories of his granddad, and, yeah, of course, be sad and grieve the loss, and develop an ongoing connection. But initially, the only memories that Omar really had of his granddad were of his death, so if he can process those, then he can start to access some other memories.
What about low mood? How does this model help us understand low mood? One of the girls I work with had experienced quite extreme domestic violence, and eventually her father had killed her mother. And she said to me, “Well, it’s my fault,” I said, “Oh, that’s an interesting idea.” She said, “Well, I gave dad the key, which meant he could get into the house and kill my mum. If I hadn’t given him the key, he wouldn’t have killed her and she’d be alive.” I said, “That’s a really interesting idea, have you ever told anyone else that’s what you think?” She said, “I used to, but they said I was stupid for thinking that and I should stop it.” And sometimes, in order to hold onto the idea that the world makes sense, we end up creating a story that says it was our fault, because if the world is completely unpredictable and irrational, that’s terrifying. But as a young person seeks for meaning, “Well, why did that happen? Maybe it happened because I gave him the key, maybe it’s my fault.” So, actually, the world makes sense now, this is why it happened, but there’s a price that the young person pays for that. So, whenever she was reminded of what had happened, she would think, it’s my fault, I didn’t stop him, and that was such an overwhelmingly awful feeling and thought to have, that she would push it away. She stopped going out, she stopped talking about it, and, particularly, she stopped thinking about it. And that means she didn’t have the chance to recalibrate her responsibility more realistically. She would think, it’s my fault, that’s awful, and push it away.
So, what I did, through our therapy sessions, was I was just really curious. I didn’t challenge her idea that it was her fault, I just wanted to know more. I said, “Oh, that’s interesting, tell me more.” And she said that she had previously told her granny, but she – her granny had said, “Stop thinking about it and don’t think about it anymore,” which just meant she didn’t talk about it with anyone. But through a number of sessions of just exploring, saying, “Oh, tell me more, help me to understand that,” her story started to change, and her story went from, “If I hadn’t given him the key, he wouldn’t have killed her,” to, “If I hadn’t given him the key, he wouldn’t have killed her that night, but he would have killed her another night.” And, as a result, her guilt went from this to this.
Now, Winnie-the-Pooh says, “A thing when it’s inside your head seems very thingish. When it’s outside your head, it has other people looking at it, doesn’t seem to thingish anymore.” And she also had these sensory bound representation memories, these trauma memories, that would intrude sometimes, and remind her of what had happened. So it was also important that we sometimes did some work on those memories. And as she became more and more withdrawn, she had less contact with her friends, and that meant that she became more low and had less energy to do things, and less opportunities to do things, so she really got stuck in a low mood cycle. But without going back and helping her to re-evaluate her guilt, I think it would have been really difficult to have actually helped her to get out and see things differently. So, just to summarise, the Cognitive Model of PTSD may be a really useful way to think about the impact of traumatic events, not just when we think about post-traumatic stress disorder, but other types of difficulties. And if an evidence-based intervention is not effective, so we’re working with somebody who’s anxious or has low mood or is struggling with their behaviour, and we’re doing what we would normally do, but it doesn’t seem to be working, well, maybe we need to think about the role of their experience, the role of their trauma, maybe we need to reformulate weaving in some ideas from the Cognitive Model of PTSD. And that might change the way that we approach the intervention and, hopefully, that means that we might be able to offer something more effective.
Thanks very much.