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Dr Ally Jaffee So, hello everybody. My name is Dr Ally Jaffee. I’m an NHS Doctor specialising in Psychiatry, and very passionate about youth mental health. I’m also a Trustee of Chimo Trust, which is all about “promoting holistic interventions using social prescribing for young people with mental health challenges.” So, I’m absolutely thrilled to be discussing “youth mental health, adolescents, and loneliness” today with an incredible panel of speakers. So, I’m going to pass over to the ladies first, because ladies first. And so, I will start with you Dr Keri Wong, please introduce yourself.
Dr Keri Wong Thanks for that, Ally. Hi everyone. I’m Dr Keri Wong. I’m an Associate Professor of Developmental Psychology at the University College London. I also Co-direct UCL’s Centre for Education and Criminal Justice. And like, Ally, I’m also passionate about youth mental health and particularly, focusing on the role of youth hubs and youth clubs, community centres as spaces that may help promote or hinder some of these outcomes that we’re looking at in young people. And recently, as – I’m also Co-editing an ACAMH Special Issue focused on “the role of physical environments on young people’s psychosocial outcomes.” So, look out for that as well. Thanks.
Dr Ally Jaffee Thanks very much, and over to you, Dr Katherine Thompson. Dr Katherine Thompson Hi, I’m Katherine or Katie Thompson, and I’m a Postdoc Researcher at Purdue University in the Sociology Department, and I did my PhD at King’s College London, looking all about social isolation and how that links to mental health. So, I have a real interest in looking at longitudinal patterns in research and how we can better understand the complex links between social environments and our mental health. Yeah, thank you for having me.
Dr Ally Jaffee And finally, last but not least, over to you, Dr Henry Aughterson. Dr Henry Aughterson Hi, Ally. Yes, my name’s Henry. I’m a Junior or Resident Doctor, but also have a research background, having done my PhD in an area called Social Prescribing. So, all about, kind of, connecting individuals to community groups and activities, and some of that research involved social prescribing research among adolescents and yeah, I also have a background in doing, kind of, workshop facilitation in schools on things like masculinity and things like that. So, yeah, interest in social prescribing, as well as youth mental health.
Dr Ally Jaffee Wow, a diverse and brilliant panel. So, let’s kick off with a very difficult question. So, let’s discuss “is loneliness and mental health bidirectional in a young people’s population?” So, does poor mental health lead to loneliness and does loneliness lead to poor mental health? And what does the research show about this? Dr Keri Wong So, I’ll go – I’ll have a first stab at that. I certainly think it is a bidirectional relationship between loneliness and mental health, particularly in young people. A lot of the existing research to date has documented, if anything, this relationship. I think there are various nuances to that relationship as well. There’s not so much as if – evidence looking at tracking loneliness over time, and I think there could be more, but possibly on our panel we’ll – we have expertise to showcase some of this work as well, but certainly, the answer is “yes.” And there is good evidence establishing this link between loneliness and mental health in young people, but certainly, a bit more nuanced understanding is needed in this area.
Dr Ally Jaffee And over to you, Katie. Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah, I completely agree. I think a lot of what is thought about when we think about social isolation and loneliness is how it – that direction links to mental health. So, if you are lonely, then you’re at more risk for mental health problems, and it’s not actually considered that much in the literature about the other way around. So, it could be that people who are vulnerable with their mental health or physical health are also at greater risk of being lonely or socially isolated, but it’s incredibly difficult to capture those associations.
So, I think one of the blocks there is, how we are measuring in large cohort studies. So, in a lot of the work that I have done, you take a lot of participants and you can see changes across the lifespan, and actually, having the measures of loneliness and social isolation is quite rare in those large cohort studies. So, it can be difficult to unpick those associations. And I think one of the projects that we worked on was around ADHD, so looking at how – “is there this bidirectional relationship between social isolation and ADHD symptoms?” And what we found that – was actually when we were controlling for any, sort of, stable characteristics across time, it was the children that had increased ADHD symptoms that then went on to become isolated, rather than the other way around. So, I think it’s a nice way to show that actually vulnerable people are also at risk of becoming isolated, which could then lead onto other problems. So, it’s a very – definitely, a very complicated cyclic relationship that needs more research, for sure.
Dr Ally Jaffee I was going to mention that 2010 meta-analysis by, I think it was Dr Julianne Holt-Lunstad and her colleagues, and it came to my attention because I was following Dr Vivek Murthy, the USA Surgeon General, who really used this as his political argument as to why communities need to be better to foster relationships so that we can improve all-cause mortality. And that was coming from the States, but actually what was really interesting in the UK, and sadly, we’ve gone slightly backwards here, is that I believe in 2016 or so, when Jo Cox was a MP, and obviously, she had a very sad end to her career, she actually was trying to implement “a Loneliness Minister” and bring about “a loneliness reduction strategy,” which I think was absolutely brilliant, but sadly, that no longer exists.
And this seems to be a bit of a frustration of mine and of many of my colleagues that when there’s a change of government, there seems to be a lack of continuity with especially mental health interventions that are done within that government to carry on in the next government. And so, that kind of brings me onto early support hubs and over to you, Dr Keri, because this was something that was really discussed in the Conservative Government about early support hubs for mental health, and what is your take on where we’re at with these early support hubs in our current government, and are we still on track to bring this into reality?
Dr Keri Wong Hmmm, great question, Ally, and I ask the same questions myself actually. Maybe just a bit of a disclaimer, too. I’m currently seconded to the Home Office as part of a ESRC Policy Fellowship with, kind of, sort of, an 18-month period. And during my time I’ve seen the change of government from Conservative to Labour at this point and so I think a lot of the missions, especially the new ones as well, it really does take some more detailed look at – to see whether some of this is continue – continuing what the previous government has done or whether it’s a rebranding or relabelling of things that are similar, but needs a bit more focus on as well. So, according to what I understand the missions to be at the current – with the current Labour Government, there is still a focus on early intervention to – as such, but this is framed under the “Safer Streets Mission” of focusing more on “Young Futures hubs,” they call it.
Dr Keri Wong So, to me, in my mind, as a layperson, Researcher, you know, someone from outside reading this, I think it’s tapping into some of the early intervention hubs, family hubs as well that we hear about from the previous government. And, you know, a part of me wants to hope that this is something promising, this is something that this government will also focus on. And I think there is, you know, reasons to believe that, you know, the idea that early intervention and prevention is something that everyone, I think, can agree with on – or on, and that this government is potentially also resourcing as well.
How that would look like? I think they are still – you know, we’re still waiting to hear more about the details, but certainly from the research side, I think there’s a lot of hope perhaps also in really pushing the agenda for early intervention. And as I said, in community spaces, in local hubs or youth hubs, that being a primary, sort of, area of focus as well. Dr Ally Jaffee I think that’s great to hear, and as far as my knowledge goes, Best For You, which is a wonderful London-wide charity, they’re connected to Central and North West London NHS Trust. They, I think, are also working on the early support hubs being brought to the front – forefront and keeping up with the momentum of them, but let’s see. It’s a work in progress and really important to obviously have that physical space because we’ve lost “third spaces” for young people. So, as we’ve lost these “third spaces” for young people, what can we do to combat this and to actually improve connection amongst young people in this digital age?
Dr Keri Wong So, I guess my quick response to that would be that there should still be a focus on, kind of, youth hubs and community centres and spaces, keeping these well-resourced and actually open to young people. Between 2010 and 2019, we’ve seen a, sort of, 30% closure of important youth hubs in this country. And we know that they are actually key spaces that young people find to be safe, to be spaces where they learn, to be spaces where they socialise and make new friends. And in this – you know, on this topic of loneliness, this is really pertinent in thinking about young people’s social health, as much as it is their mental health as well, and physical health, because loneliness is, you know, related to all of those things.
And so, one aspect is, you know, keeping these youth hubs and resources actually available for young people in this country, I think is going to be super important. And this necessarily means, not necessarily creating new spaces because brand new spaces may not gain the same trust for the young people that go there, but also, I think it’s more about thinking about what existing provisions are in place already. You know, what do local charities that are providing youth provision, what do they need to actually survive and make sure that they’re providing that high-quality provision for young people from the prevention of mental health and problems later on as well? So, that’ll be my answer.
Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah. Well, that was a fantastic answer, and I’m not sure if I have much to add beyond that, but I really liked what you said about having really safe spaces for young people, and I think socially, that is incredibly important to feel safe with your peers. And, for example, especially things around the arts and the music, that’s a really nice way for young people to come together and also to enjoy their time and feel safe and connect with each other. And I also really liked what you said about really thinking about what the charities need. Also, as a Researcher, I guess what research needs to be done and what questions don’t we know, what do we know works and doesn’t work, and how we can ask these questions in, like a – yeah, how we can ask these as research questions to better support the charities and the policymakers as well.
Dr Ally Jaffee Absolutely. Dr Henry Aughterson Yeah, brilliant answers. I think maybe I’ll just, sort of, briefly touch upon social prescribing. I’m sure we’ll talk about this a bit later as well, but one of the things with social prescribing in general as a movement, you know, social prescribing has always existed, but within the NHS anyway. Maybe five, ten years ago, the word “social prescribing” started getting used almost as though the NHS was, kind of, waking up to the power of community. But one thing with the rollout in social prescribing largely is that it’s been focused on adults. And from the start you’ve had the Youth Social Prescribing Network who’ve been, kind of, leading on this, but on the whole, social prescribing has been largely focused to adults. The Link Workers, who are those employed to sit in between GP land and the community, have been geared towards adults.
Dr Henry Aughterson That’s changing a bit. There’s been a new report by the National Academy for Social Prescribing showing some great work that’s happening, but just touching on what Keri was saying in terms of, you know, a lot of these community hubs being diminished in recent years, and the same has occurred among the adult population as well, but it’s also about how you, kind of, identify the children that would most benefit for these things. And at the moment within social prescribing, at least within healthcare, adults can access a Link Worker, whereas most children’s don’t – you know, do – most children don’t really get that opportunity via their schools. So, it’s about thinking, you know, how do we invest in those, kind of, linking roles in between schools and the community, more primary care and the community for young people. Yeah.
Dr Ally Jaffee And do you know of any initiatives that are looking at using youth social prescription to, for instance, get rid of the waiting lists when trying to get into CAMHS or trying to assist them whilst they are on the waiting list as a replacement or complimentary? Dr Henry Aughterson Hmmm. So, I know Barnardo’s are doing a lot of work in this area. They’re probably the largest, kind of, provider of voluntary sector social prescribing in the UK. And they’ve worked with local primary care systems, integrative care systems in different areas, and yeah, have found that there have been reductions in the use of primary care services, which obviously has knock-on effects for, you know, saving money locally and, kind of, wider societal benefits. But they’ve also shown, yeah, that some of these, kind of, services had a really positive impact on children’s mental health as well.
Dr Ally Jaffee And touching upon what Keri said about using what we’ve already got and repurposing it to actually enhance social connection and meet mental health challenges of young people, I know that you were involved in a football group, Henry, could you tell us a little bit about that and whether you worked with young people, you know, ten to 25, who you saw benefit from this intervention? Dr Henry Aughterson Yeah. So, most of my, kind of, PhD research was centred on adults, but the – I spent some time with a football group, as well as a number of other groups. The football group served people from 16 upwards. So, there are a lot of people who are 18, 19, 20. It was a group in London set up to support people with – so all the service users of the football group had some, kind of, mental health challenge or addiction problem and they would play football with this football group, you know, several times a week. The football group also had a Sports Physiotherapist, as well as a Mental Health Nurse from the local mental health hospital that would often, kind of, scout patients within their mental health hospital and then actually play football with them themselves.
They were actually healthcare professionals playing football alongside the service users and, you know, really, kind of, enabled this continuity of care that you don’t really see much, you know, in the NHS and also, kind of, breaking down of that professional and patient boundary. And, yeah, we found that these – you know, the football group supported people through, kind of, different mechanisms, so biological mechanisms, behavioural mechanisms, psychological, and social and – yeah, especially among the, you know, younger population, 18 to 25, many of whom had addiction problems, and they were finding football was actually replacing some of those addictions. So, they were – not they were becoming addicted to football, but it was replacing an unhealthy habit with a healthy habit and being surrounded by people who were, kind of, very supportive of that as opposed to being surrounded by people who were maybe, kind of, reinforcing their, kind of, negative habits. So, yeah, I saw a lot of beneficial effects of that group.
Dr Ally Jaffee That’s incredible to hear. And do you guys, Keri or Katherine, do you know of any other initiatives that are similar to that or that you’ve come across for young people? Dr Keri Wong I would just add maybe to Henry’s point, as I was listening to him talk about physical activity as encouraging young people to engage with, you know, different lifestyle almost and also an – a place or chance for them to meet new friends and see role models. I think I just wanted to highlight a few points here, which is, you know, some of the work that I’ve done with youth clubs and small charities in that space, is that a lot of the young people I work with are oftentimes not in education, employment and training as well. So, you know, outside of the traditional spaces we work with young people in, you know, in healthcare, in school settings, there are also, actually in this country, about 12.3% of 16 to 25 year olds who are not in education and employment and training at this point.
You know, that’s a massive group that currently we don’t really have much support for. And these youth clubs that they often engage with provision and meet other people is really crucial in, I think, thinking or promoting their sense of connectedness with others in a sense of community. And so, you know, there in that space, is not just, I suppose, physical activity, you know, it’s all sorts of things, from the arts, creative arts, from them learning about teamwork, from them discovering their own, sort of, passions and things to do in life even beyond, you know, if they don’t succeed in school. I think that sense of building confidence is also very crucial in these spaces, but I thought I’d just mention, you know, that as, not exactly programmes that have been shown already to be good interventions, but certainly, things that are happening in the local space, in the community that I think deserve attention as well, for us to, as Researchers, to further explore what works and how does it work and how do we measure these things as well.
Dr Ally Jaffee Thank you. Do you have anything to add, Katie, or do you want to move on? Dr Katherine Thompson No, not really. I think, yeah, you both – yeah, it’s fantastic work what you’re doing and I think I – I’m now in the US. So, I’ve been here for the last year or so. So, it’s very interesting. I haven’t actually had a chance to look into what is available in terms of community hubs here in the US. I’m sure there is a much different system. And I think one of the things that I want to get from the next year is thinking how we can better translate what – the work that we’re doing, ‘cause I think a lot of the times I’m writing very, like, complex papers and findings, but without having much engagement with young people themselves. So, I think that’s, kind of, the next stage that I need to take the research that we’re doing at the moment. So, I would be interested to see how that compares in the US to the work that’s been done in the UK.
Dr Ally Jaffee Yeah, I’m a big believer in co-production. Nothing about us without us and I think so much of the time, even in the NHS, we can be guilty of creating quality improvement projects without actually asking our patients, does this work for you? Does this actually meet your needs? Rather than us deciding the solution for the end user. So, I think it’s really brilliant that that’s on your radar. And I also wanted to share the work of the charity I’m involved in, Chimo Trust, and how we actually have a great network of charities who are doing this work for young people. So, as I mentioned at the start, we invest in charities that harness the therapeutic powers of sport, nature, or the art to empower young people to manage their own mental wellbeing, especially when they’ve been set back. And so, we have a portfolio of charities across the UK and we support charities such as the Wave Project, which is looking at changing young lives through surf therapy, which is just wonderful, and, you know, there’s a lid for every pot.
We support Empire Fighting Chance, which is non-contact boxing. We support Comics Youth up in Liverpool, which is all about narrative medicine and writing your own comic about your life story. We do an equine therapy one, Strength & Learning Through Horses, and many more looking at music, looking at drama. And I think it’s so wonderful that – I mean, this is me just blowing smoke up Chimo Trust’s bottom, but I do think it’s really wonderful that we are actually bringing the charities together to talk to one another so that they’re not siloed and duplicating work and can actually learn from each other. Because we’re seeing now, with Green Prescribing and also with the Arts Council and Creative Health, that there are all these new guidelines that are being written and, you know, wanting to bring all the stakeholders together at the table. I know that two weeks ago there was a APPG for Creative Health, and so I wanted to ask all of you, how are you working with other stakeholders to minimise working in the silo and learn from others and have that intersectionality as well?
Dr Keri Wong That’s a great question, and actually, I would say it’s the highlight of my work as a Researcher, you know, being able to go out into the field, go knock on random people’s doors and charities and to get to hear what they – their, you know, lives are like and what their challenges are in particular. I think it’s really the highlight of my job and why I do what I do, I think. So, some of the stakeholders I’ve currently been working with are local charities up in different boroughs in London, so in Islington, in Camden, Tower Hamlets, West Acton, you know, and so forth. I’m not originally from London, so each of – each time I go out to a, kind of, different neighbourhood, I find myself, sort of, in explore – explorer mode, as it were. You know, seeing each of these visits as an adventure because I genuinely don’t really know the area that well. But also, I think beyond London as well, I think it’s also important for us to think about the wider UK. So, I’ve currently also stakeholders up in York, Newcastle, Manchester as well, trying to understand how youth clubs there work and what are the cultural or maybe situational, sort of, differences or similarities as well to London, you know, these youth clubs are facing.
So, it’s been real pleasure, kind of, being able to travel and go up and down the country, as it were, to see different sites. And I think as a Researcher, it’s so important that we are also getting outside of our comfort zone to really go into the spaces to understand the communities that we are working with. Because until we do that, until we have those conversations with them – and also, luckily for us, they are almost always very welcoming of us in their spaces, which I think is a real privilege as well. Until we, kind of, make that move, we will continue to work in silos and we will, as you say, continue to be coming out with solutions that may or may not work well for the group that we’re hoping to serve. So, co-production all the way, and also, as Researchers or professions just, kind of, going out there and being willing to see new spaces and new people, I think is part of the job.
Dr Ally Jaffee Totally agree. Music to my ears. And what about you, Katherine? Dr Katherine Thompson Hi, yeah. Well, I haven’t worked with any stakeholders directly, but I contributed to a project with Bridget Bryan who conducted interviews with people talking about loneliness and at work, and specifically how that impacts their work and how maybe how we think about loneliness when you are at work, ‘cause it’s such a big part of your daily life, right? And how that links to all other outcomes. And it was so interesting. I went through all the interviews with her and we looked at that and it really changes your perspective, I think, as an Academic. And I – my PhD was on Social Isolation and now I work on depression research using very big data in the US. So, it’s almost the opposite and I think that’s a real drawback of going into these big datasets, is that you don’t get this contact with people that are actually experiencing the things that you’re studying and that you’re trying to learn about and understand, and that’s incredibly important. And one of the projects that is coming up and what I’m working on is I would like to go out into these communities and really understand how young people think of loneliness and how they think of social isolation and how those two things interact with each other. Because I think young people would probably have a lot to say about what they think about that and what that means to them, as in, how they experience that. Especially I think in – when Julianne Holt-Lunstad did the document that was talking about the – oh my God, my words.
Dr Ally Jaffee Smoking. Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah, not the meta-analysis, but the whole document that she – the policy document she put together with the US Government. And so much of that was focused on adults and how we define or look at social connections in adults, but actually maybe young people would have really good insights into how we measure these things and how that they can capture them, and especially with technology, and how often they think or talk to their friends. And I think that could really add some, yeah, a lot of detail to what we study at the moment by getting their insight.
Dr Ally Jaffee There’s so much in that that I want to unpick and I – I’m going to park the loneliness in the workplace right now, ‘cause I want to come back to that later when we discuss “commercial determinants of loneliness,” which is just fascinating. But talking about young people’s actual view on “loneliness” as a term, have you come up, all of you, against any barriers as to actually getting young people to engage with the research, as being able to research them? Do they understand what loneliness is? Can they actually acknowledge when they are lonely themselves? Can they admit to it? Because there’s so much taboo and stigma with saying, “I feel lonely.” And actually, when I was driving on the motorway just outside of North London the other week, I saw this brilliant billboard that said, “#TheLonelyMillion.” And then I Googled it after being the millennial that I am and found the social media platform. And it’s essentially looking at how one million young adults between 20 to 34 struggle with loneliness. And they’re making an entire campaign about that and how we can reduce the stigma. So, it seems like, you know, this conversation is becoming more mainstream, but I just wanted to check in with all of you, have you come up against any barriers with actually the subject of loneliness, how it’s explained, how it’s received by your end user?
Dr Keri Wong I think just two quick points for me on that, not specific maybe to loneliness per se, but certainly when I’m co-producing measures or methods with young people, oftentimes they might even point me to a – kind of, a viral TikTok video that’s ongoing, you know, and say, “Actually, that’s really great that this expresses exactly what I feel and how – you know, what my experience is at the moment.” So, that’s, sort of, one thing. I think it’s our willingness as Researchers to even ask the question or provide the platform for them to share, you know, how would we define this concept and what are some resources that you might want to bring into the conversation to facilitate our understanding of this?
And then the second point being, you know, oftentimes, I think Researchers go in thinking, “Oh, this survey is standardised. We need this to be completed by you and this is the standardised interview that we use in clinics, and please help us complete this.” But, you know, the way in which we go about executing and operationalising that in spaces that are not the lab or the school setting, is actually really challenging and we should acknowledge that there could be other ways for us to rethink how we do research in the field. And it’s so important that we start from, you know, make it youth-led and make sure that they are, first, comfortable and safe and feel trusting of you of the piece of research, and really, where possible, including them in the conversation and getting them to lead, you know, you to the right definitions, to the right processes, and really letting, you know, my research hat, you know, kind of, at the door before I even enter into their space. Because that’s the best way, I think, of doing research that’s co-produced.
Dr Ally Jaffee Thank you, and, Henry, do you feel like there is any taboo with – and stigma with the term “loneliness,” going back to when you were at medical school, and I know you were a student for a very long time because you did your PhD in between. Very brainy over there. So, do you think any of your medical student friends or even yourself would’ve felt comfortable at the time to say, “I’m lonely” and what that language looked like during that time at university? Dr Henry Aughterson It’s a really interesting question because I think we don’t always understand what loneliness means, do we? And we sometimes mistake it with, kind of, social isolation, whereas loneliness is more a, kind of, perceived feeling, you know. Often, you know, I’m lucky to have never experienced, kind of, chronic loneliness, but I’ve definitely experienced loneliness and periods of loneliness. And it hasn’t been because I haven’t had lots of social connections in my life. It’s because I hadn’t been connecting to them, for whatever reason, been in a different place or I’ve been busy or whatever, you know – or it’s the wrong type of sex – social connections, whatever it might be. So, part of it is around the language, I think, and, kind of, education, you know, among young people about what that can mean. And also, that we all experience it occasionally.
The one million, I mean, I imagine that’ll be a – you know, maybe that’ll be those who count as “chronically lonely.” The actual number of people who experience loneliness occasionally or often is much, much higher than that in the UK. And so, yeah, I do think there is, you know, there is still a stigma, you know, especially among young people where a lot of your, kind of, identity is based around how, kind of, “cool you think you are” or “how you appear to your friends.” And so, it’d be a really difficult thing to, you know, admit, I think, for a young person.
And part of this ties into a passion I have around, you know, I think there needs to be a revolution on, kind of, emotional health, kind of, workshop training in schools, not just mental health, actually emotional health. So, understanding our emotions. We’re just expected to, kind of, learn this in life, and that’s fine. You know, most of us do, but a lot of us, you know, will continue to, kind of, struggle with, kind of, emotional regulation. And there’s not a huge amount out there in schools in terms of, you know, our relationship with our thoughts and, you know, what does “feeling lonely mean” and, you know, all of these things. And I think we need a bit of a revolution in that, as well as, kind of, mental health as well.
I used to do a bit of facilitation for a charity called Beyond Equality and they specialise – so they’re largely men who go into schools and do workshops with young boys on masculinity and mental health, but, kind of, topics specifically around, kind of, masculinity and what it means to be a man and, kind of, challenging certain gender stereotypes. And I found largely, regardless of the school, you know, we did schools of all backgrounds all round the UK, and it was just young boys, but in general, you know, they were very, very engaged. And because it was a workshop, kind of, format, it wasn’t dictatorial or, you know, teaching someone something. It was, kind of, you know, us wanting to hear from them and then, kind of, you know, facilitating the conversation. And, you know, because people had, kind of – people were empowered in that process, pe – you know, the young children became, you know, very engaged and came up with new ideas and, you know, you can see how those things can really work, but I – you know, myself at school, I don’t know about you guys, but I had absolutely, you know, nothing in that regard. I didn’t even know even, you know, mental health was even talk – you know, was even talked about as a term at that stage, so… Dr Ally Jaffee Hear, hear, yeah, definitely. I mean, I’m a millennial and I think you are too, Henry. I think we might all be, which is quite exciting, so, yeah.
Dr Henry Aughterson I don’t actually know what a millennial means, but yeah, I’ll join the club. Dr Ally Jaffee I – we are at the same age, so I know you’re a millennial. Dr Henry Aughterson Okay, okay. Dr Ally Jaffee It’s like 1995 onwards. Yeah, 1995, 1996 back, but yeah, Gen Z seem to be getting a lot more emotional literacy training, which is fantastic, but then there is still that issue around – which we’ll get onto with you, Henry, around the digital age lending itself to not being able to have as deep of relationships as one would when there was no technology perhaps.
But just coming to some of Keri’s work, which I really wanted to discuss and which I think is really important, is that during COVID, it was this massive shared experience where obviously everyone was an individual throughout it, but it was that one experience where everyone was supposed to abide by the same rules. Obviously different if you were a healthcare worker going in or an essential keyworker, but everyone was, kind of, stripped of having their usual social interaction. So, it almost was a leveller for some people. And some people – some patients I’ve spoken to, actually say, “COVID was a great time for them ‘cause it made them feel less self-conscious about being more isolated because everyone was more isolated.” So, Keri, I just wanted to come to you about what the impact of COVID was on “loneliness and social isolation,” and if you can just share some of your work in that domain.
Dr Keri Wong Yes, certainly. So, during COVID, we launched what was the global survey online, as most Researchers did at the time. It was open – you know, it was a link and it was open to anyone who had access to the link. And it was translated to seven to eight different languages at that point, ‘cause we were wanting a, sort of, international perspective on how COVID’s impacting people’s mental health, social and physical health as well. What we did find in this longitudinal study, so we had, sort of, three timepoints from April 2020, six months’ later, and then also 12 months’ later we did, sort of, the same survey. We found that actually loneliness did – across the different ages, it was high for most of the population as it were. And this wasn’t different in different countries.
It was interesting to see that it was across the board even though obviously lockdown restrictions were quite different in different countries. But generally, people who did, you know, complete our survey, identified and self-reported that loneliness levels were pretty high. Particularly those with stricter, you know, lockdown situations, but across the board not significantly different across countries. What we also found was that loneliness was a very key variable when we were also looking or mapping out different mental health measures as well. So, we had things like levels of anxiety, depression, self-esteem, levels of aggression, you know, anything – most of the things you can think of about mental health and also physical health measures as well. But ultimately, loneliness levels or self-perceived levels of loneliness were really strongly connected to mental health outcomes, as it were, and also the physical health outcomes.
An interesting other variable we included was levels of trust in self-perceived trust. So, I study social trust and also mistrust. When people don’t trust others, how does this impact their mental health? And again, during COVID, you would imagine many people would feel the sense of mistrust in others as well. And at the same time, because of lockdown restrictions due to, you know, that fuelled loneliness, we saw this, kind of, stronger connection between mistrust and also levels of loneliness. It led us to think that, you know, maybe when lockdown restrictions were to ease, you know, maybe people then would feel less lonely as they start to connect or reconnect with others, that some of these mental health issues or outcomes would decrease as well.
We did see that for, I would say, the majority of the population or the sample that completed the survey, but still there were specific groups that maintained this high level of distrust and this high level of loneliness as well, even post-lockdown easing at least six months after that. So, I think there are something to be said there when we’re thinking about, you know, yes, a lot of these surveys during COVID are looking at averages across groups. But importantly, I think within those group averages, they’re also going to be, you know, minority or subgroups that are disproportionately impacted by COVID and its impacts.
And still today, there are – you know, I go and talk to young people as well, they still cite those two years, you know, of their lives as being very significant and impacting their current ways of learning, their current ways of motivation, their current even ways of thinking about their own lifestyle and friendship groups and hobbies and things like that. So, I think we shouldn’t, sort of, just disregard or not even talk about those important years, especially for young people, ‘cause those are real defining moments in which, you know, as we all know, when we were younger, we were probably doing very different things to the generation that has gone – that had gone through COVID. And so, some of those challenge or – challenges or lessons that we might have learned, this generation may not have. And so, it’s important to recognise that as well.
Dr Ally Jaffee Yes, I couldn’t agree more with that. So, coming back to you, Katherine, because you touched on so beautifully about this incredible work you did with your colleague around “loneliness in the workplace.” So, I wanted to discuss “the commercial determinants of loneliness,” which I think is such a fascinating umbrella, kind of, outlook to really examine what the issues are in society that can drive loneliness so it’s not even really an individual issue, but a socially constructed issue. And COVID’s wonderful outcome was this working from home business that started to become very mainstream. So, I wanted to ask you about what the data that you collected ended up, kind of, leaning towards when it came to working from home and feeling lonely and how that contributed to either productivity and/or mental health? And what is, you know, the current state of play with working from home versus having relationships in the office?
Dr Katherine Thompson Oh, interesting question. I am not an expert in “workplace loneliness” at all. And Bridget is definitely the person who can answer that question. I – we did a study in a sample of young people where we looked at how loneliness was related to subjective social status and how that influences economic outcomes. And we were looking at – I’m just trying to remember what the stud – what we found in the study, but I think we were looking at if that relationship was bidirectional. So, between loneliness and subjective social status. And I think what we found was that loneliness led to subjective societal – social status, but not the other way around. So, it’s interesting that loneliness is having these socioeconomic outcomes, rather than the socioeconomic outcome being the driver of loneliness.
But that was in a sample of twins that was conducted, I think they were around age 12 to 18, and that would – data would’ve been collected I think in the 2000s. So, it would be really interesting to see how working from home and the way that we work now has completely different implications for loneliness. And I’m pretty sure Bridget has an ongoing study looking at this. Dr Ally Jaffee Okay, brilliant. For another webinar. That sounds great.
Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah. Dr Ally Jaffee Keri, do you know much around, kind of, workplaces, especially for young people going into their first job and how they can improve social connection in their workplace? Dr Keri Wong It’s interesting you ask this because, I suppose, during COVID, we did do a short piece of work, just cross-sectionally, though, looking at cohort differences between, you know, university students who had started prior, you know, had one year before COVID and then the cohort that had actually started during COVID and then still, you know, afterwards when COVID has, sort of, you know – people are returning back to the classroom and stuff. And even in – within that study we found differences in levels of loneliness across those cohort, but not so much, other than that.
Dr Ally Jaffee Great, thank you. And, Henry, were you a student at the time of COVID? Do you have any lived experience to share about what it was like for you? I was actually a medical student that went online for my penultimate year, which was interesting ‘cause it’s a very practical degree. Dr Henry Aughterson No, I mean, my – so I – had I stayed in med school, I would’ve been – my, kind of, first year as a Junior Doctor, I would’ve been working in COVID, but actually, I’d taken that time out to do my PhD. So, in terms of my work, I wasn’t, kind of, hugely affected by it. We were – for some of that, we had to work from home. Other times, we were kind of, sort of, keyworkers. So, we were able to be in the office, kind of, spaced out. I did a bit of work as a Healthcare Assistant, some pa – kind of, which you were able to do as a, kind of, medical student at the time. So, again, you know, experience, kind of, working on the frontline a bit, you know, in the pandemic, which was obviously quite an intense experience, but, you know, I wasn’t doing that full-time. So, I actually felt quite fortunate doing my PhD at the time because...
Dr Ally Jaffee I’m so sure. Dr Henry Aughterson ...I was able to, kind of, have a hybrid way of working and still have a lot of, kind of, social connections through work and yeah. So, it wasn’t, kind of, hugely affected by that, really, so… Dr Ally Jaffee Well, that’s good to hear. And I guess we’ve touched a lot about environmental events. So, like, COVID having an impact on loneliness and young people’s mental health, as well as social structures. So, I wanted to put it out to all of you, and I know Katherine, you’ve done some work on this, but is there research showing that there is some genetic basis for people to be more predisposed to loneliness?
Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah, it’s a really interesting topic I think because – so I haven’t looked at loneliness, but my amazing colleague, Tim Matthews, has a lot of papers around loneliness. And one of them was on understanding the heritability of loneliness, but recently we looked at the me – the overlap between mental health problems and social isolation. And we looked at this longitudinally at ages 12 to 18, and we saw that around 80% of that overlap was due to this shared genetic influence, which I think is really interesting in how we think about that. Because maybe perhaps instead of isolation or social connections or loneliness being a risk factor or an outcome of mental health problems, maybe it’s something that is more intertwined or embedded in the experience of poor mental health. So, I think what a nice example of that is if you think about sleep.
So, sleep problems often go hand-in-hand with symptoms of depression and other mental health problems, and they’re often a key indicator of when someone is not feeling very well. So – and they also go genetically hand-in-hand with mental health, sleep problems. So, maybe social isolation or loneliness could be a nice way – it could be a nice way to conceptualise this of actually maybe someone’s social connections is a key indicator that maybe they’re having other problems. And that could be something that is picked up in schools and things like that. So, I just think it’s really interesting because I think a lot of the way that we, like, take the findings from these papers is dependent on how we are assessing these things. And the relationship between loneliness and mental health is going to be incredibly complex in terms of the bidirectionality, which I think we did touch on, but also, yeah, the aetiology of these things are some people are more vulnerable than others, and how can we use that information going forward. So, I think just as a general note on that, that we shouldn’t be underestimating the complexity of these things rather than saying one thing leads to another, but involving young people in how we design our measures, using longitudinal data and using a very interdisciplinary approach in research, I think is really beneficial.
Dr Ally Jaffee That’s so fascinating, just to really grasp that loneliness and obviously, mental health issues, as we know, can be heritable. And I guess it comes back to what we say always in psychiatry, it’s always the biopsychosocial model is always multifaceted and it’s, yeah, really interesting to hear that work. And in terms of “are we actually doing enough to combat loneliness?” Because we’ve touched upon some of the initiatives in the early support hubs and obviously, the football example from Henry, which was wonderful, but as one of you pointed out, I think it was you, Henry, that this study from 2010 showed that loneliness actually is a greater risk factor than smoking to all-cause mortality. So, if we have such brilliant smoking ban and public health interventions to combat smoking, do the three of you think we’re doing enough, and we’ll make this UK-centric, to combat loneliness knowing what we know?
Dr Henry Aughterson I think I’ve just briefly touched upon that, and I’m sure you could as well, Ally, just from the perspective of a Doctor, and I’ve done some, kind of, talks to medical students on this kind of thing. We’re taught to be experts in, you know, communicating to patients about the side effects of medication that we give them often for psychosocial, kind of, causes of their biological problem, but we’re experts at communicating, you know, our medications to patients, you know, the risks of a surgery. We’re pretty good at talking about exercise and diet, not in too much detail, but in general terms, you know, how good are we as med students and as Doctors at having conversations with patients about loneliness? We’re really, really poor at that and we’re, in general, quite uncomfortable as health professionals, especially Doctors.
We don’t get any training in that really and yet, as you point out, it’s pretty much the biggest risk factor for the very thing that we’re spending our lives, you know, treating, which is, you know, health or physical health. And so, we should be experts in this as much as we’re experts, you know, in the, kind of, biomedical side, you know, coming back to that biopsychosocial model. So, from a, you know, a health professional point of view, that’s an area we need to, kind of, look at and how we’re training our, kind of, Doctors and Nurses to have these conversations. ‘Cause I think because of the stigma, you know, mental health in general, but loneliness in particular, because of that stigma that’s still there, health professionals are uncomfortable with those conversations as well. So, you know, that has a big knock-on effect on public health, doesn’t it?
Dr Ally Jaffee Hear, hear, Henry. I think that is a brilliant action point from today that we all need to work together to create a framework to train medical students on how to assess, measure, and signpost to interventions to combat loneliness. And speaking of measurements to actually combat – sorry, speaking of measurements on how to detect loneliness, because you’ve all mentioned it, us really relevant to the research. What does that actually look like? What scales do we have that we could use maybe as frontline Clinicians to assess loneliness? How do you assess it as a School Teacher, for instance, and you’re looking at your class of students and you want it to be a robust, not too subjective analysis?
Dr Keri Wong I mean, the – some of the measures we’ve been using definitely with schoolchildren and age-appropriate ones would be the LSDQ. That’s, like, 20 items, pretty, you know, eight year old – I think the reading age is like eight years old and above, but then again, you’re asking, “How about the younger, you know, children in that spectrum?” I suppose with adults, there’s the common other measure, which is I think the UCLA Loneliness Scale, eight items. That I think maybe is something that’s also in the birth cohort studies and whatnot, but Katherine could probably correct me if I’m wrong. But I suppose a – you know, both of these measures are about self-reporting, but, you know, a part of me also thinks that actually, say in schools, there are also other measures looking at sociometric measures so you can get peers to rate other peers to see who’s the maybe most lonely or who’s the most popular or who’s the most whatever? So, it’s a, kind of, peer rated levels of understanding classroom dynamics that is often used in the literature. And I think there is some scope there, you know, for us to think about can different informants or different people in our lives also provide information about one’s levels of loneliness or one’s maybe positioning in the social scene, as it were. And I think there is some value there that could be, you know, discovered or tapped into as well, but yeah, that’s all I know, but[inaudible – 5248.
Dr Ally Jaffee That is such useful information. Thank you, and to you, Katherine. Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah, and just to follow on from that, it’s – you mentioned a little bit about how we can assess it in younger people and I think that’s what’s really nice about maybe thinking about social connection as maybe this broader term of loneliness is obviously, as I think Henry said earlier, this subjective feeling that your relationships are not what you want them to be. Whereas social isolation is having this feeling of that you don’t – it’s not a feeling, sorry, not having enough social connections around you. And that might be a nice way to detect these deficits in social connection for young people. If they can say, “Oh, I don’t have many friends, or I don’t spend any time with my friends.” It’s not necessarily tapping into loneliness, but this could be quite a useful indicator.
And what we used in a few of our studies was the Child Behaviour Checklist, which I think is quite a long checklist of general child behaviour, but they have a peer problems subscale which is often used and I think it’s items suchlike, enjoy spending time alone, doesn’t want to talk to other people, doesn’t have many friends, that sort of thing. So, I think the – developing the measures is a really big thing and it’s a really – it’s a real deficit, I think, in the research literature. So, how we can get people together to – the young people together to develop these measures would be super, super useful for the big cohort studies as well.
Dr Ally Jaffee Absolutely. Dr Katherine Thompson Oh, and I – also, something that Keri said that I thought was really, really important is different reporters. So, the child – I think the Child Behaviour Checklist is actually parent and Teacher report. So, you’re asking the parents and the Teachers to, like, you know, assess their – how their kids are doing. And I’m sure the child themselves would have something very different to say compared to what the Teachers see at schools and what the parents see at home. So, having a multi-informant report would be most beneficial, I think.
Dr Ally Jaffee That’s brilliant, and to ask you both, Keri and Katherine, because Henry touched upon it, do you think we’re doing enough when it comes to public mental health measures to combat loneliness in the UK? Dr Keri Wong I think we can always do more is the answer. I think, you know, there’s always room for us to, you know, think creatively about the way that we are currently addressing the status quo. I often think that, you know, we – you know, as Researchers, we go about doing things maybe one way and then – and I think it works here, let’s try and replicate it. But it’s not until we work with different populations, work with different age groups and different space – work in different spaces that we quickly realise, you know, not everything is going to replicate exactly the same and we therefore need to rethink the ways in which we’d – we do research, the way in which we even interact with different groups to engage with them. So, I’m, at the moment, I think a large portion of my work is about rethinking the way we think we do things. So – and I’d always think that we – there’s room for improvements for any of this kind of work.
Dr Ally Jaffee And Katherine? Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah, I would completely agree. There’s always room for improvement, especially when it comes to young people. And I think that also being mindful of not putting pressure on people that are already at max capacity, like I think, like, Teachers have a lot to do in their schools and to not, I guess, overburden the services that already exist, right? And I think Henry touched a little bit and – on about being a Doctor and how – talking about, like, health and social connection and loneliness is not something that comes up, but also, maybe we need additional systems in place that aren’t just reliant on Doctors and Teachers to pick up this work as well. I’m not an expert in that, but that’s just a general opinion, yeah.
Dr Ally Jaffee Absolutely, and then a question to all of you, but I’ll get Henry to ask it first. So, young people are completely infused in this digital age and I do think it’s quite frustrating to hear how demonised it is all the time that smartphones lead to this term “brain rot,” which the Gen Zs love, and it’s inevitability. I’m not a big fan of the under-16s ban for smartphones and all of that, but we won’t go into that on this debate. But, Henry, how can we actually, you know, not demonise smartphones for young people? It’s an inevitability that they’ll be using them, but how can we just improve their relationships with their smartphone and other devices so that they can be in the real world and connecting with their friends or making new friends, but, you know, could a smartphone actually be a conduit to this?
Dr Henry Aughterson It’s a great question, yeah, and I think, you know, shaming and demonising doesn’t really work, does it? Dr Ally Jaffee Hmmm. Dr Henry Aughterson And, you know, we need to, sort of, bring people with us, and adults are as guilty of spending too much time on their phone as children are nowadays as well. And then I think, you know, that social media and smartphones, we group them together, you know, they’re tools, aren’t they? And so, they’re not, kind of, inherently, you know, negative, but I think it is about, kind of, education on some of the, kind of, negative effects of smartphones and social media in a non-demonising, non-shaming way. And, you know, some of that, you know, does involve, kind of, thinking about healthy boundaries that we can set up with our phones and smartphones.
I haven’t done any research in this area, but I know for me personally, I’ve definitely experienced, I would say, kind of, “smartphone addiction” or possibly “social media addiction” in the past to the point where I’ve been, kind of, angry that – at the – at how much control I feel this device has over me, from a personal point of view. And so, for me, I’ve had to set very clear boundaries to make sure my use with my phone is healthy. So, I like to think of, kind of, tech time, but also tech space. So, you know, not just how much screentime we’re using, you know, on our phones, but what spaces are we carrying our smartphone into and is it – you know, can it be, can we have certain sections of our house, for example, that we don’t have our phone in?
So, I have a – we’ve recently moved out of London and we have a small spare room and we call that tech zone where we put our, kind of, phones in basically, and I can use my phone in that room, but the rest of the flat, for me personally, is tech-free from my phone ‘cause I want to connect with my partner, I want to read, I want to play music, I want to, you know, do things, I want to be, kind of, controlling of my time, basically. So, little boundaries like that. And it’s not to say that I’m not using my phone for lots of incredible things and just to, sort of, build on the point, you know, can it be used in a positive way? Yeah, there’s huge growth of really positive, kind of, digital mental health apps, aren’t there?
I know, for me, in the last year, kind of, just like you, trying to, kind of, produce mental health social media content. That’s been an incredibly, kind of, productive way of using technology to, kind of, reach people and try and, you know, support people a bit. So, it definitely can be done, shouldn’t be demonised, but as I said, just thinking about what those boundaries are for you, and not telling people what those boundaries should be. Just de – everyone developing their conscious relationship with their phone. It might be for them deleting certain apps, it might be limiting their screentime, it might be creating tech-free zones in their house, and having like a buddy or a family member alongside you to, kind of, hold you to account to those, sort of, things can be really helpful as well.
Dr Ally Jaffee I think that’s brilliant and I’m so happy you take the nuanced perspective as I do. And we wouldn’t have met if it weren’t for Instagram, you and I, so there we go, social media. Dr Henry Aughterson Well, that’s the biggest point of all really, isn’t it, Ally? Dr Ally Jaffee Exactly, and Katherine and Keri, do you have anything from the research that you can point towards about the relationship between social media and loneliness in the younger population? Dr Keri Wong I think very briefly. I mean, drawing on, sort of, you know, two areas of research. So, one is looking at delayed gratification, right? So, this idea that social media or the pings that we get from apps is really sending a signal in our brain saying it’s a reward. You know, we want to know, we want to connect with others, we want to know what’s going on, but I think it’s the speed in which information and signals are being fed to young people today through their phones that is a bit challenging to monitor. So, I’m definitely not in the camp of, you know, banning phones, you know, and all of these things, but I think the other, kind of, helpful literature in research is in addiction research. So, we know that when, you know, people are trying to cut or quit smoking, it’s not enough for them to just say, “Don’t do that. You know, don’t smoke.” Right? It’s by providing them with an alternative behaviour that enables them to change or create new links in the behaviour and the reward system.
So, I think the same thing with young people and their phones, you know, if they’re not – if they’re – or if we’re asking them not to maybe spend so much time on their phones, what alternative behaviours are we providing them that may be more promising, more positive? You know, can this be physical activity? Can it be an art activity? Can it be going out for a walk? You know, can it be other alternative behaviours? Which I think at the crux of it, we need to co-create with the young people, or at least get them to agree to come up with some alternative habit that they would engage with instead of their phones. So, the research would probably - maybe these two areas I think are most promising in thinking about a solution with young people and their phones, but generally, you know, I think ultimately we want to, as Henry said, you know, educate young people in terms of, you know, how much time are you wasting on these apps or on your phones? But also, getting them to get the feedback, I think, from the information and using that to shape and make better decisions. I think, ultimately, young people know how much time they’re spending on their phones and it is that more, like, addiction to the devices that they are wanting to constantly be online. So, if we can, as maybe adults with a bit more emotional control, regulation and control, if we can help create those boundaries with young people, then I think that would be a good solution.
Dr Ally Jaffee Epic, and Katherine? Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah, I think that was a brilliant response. I don’t have much to add on top of that. I just think recognising the nuance of that is incredibly important. And, like, we have the smartphones now, they’re going to exist and so I think just having blanket bands or scary headlines that say that these things are damaging is actually not very helpful. And from – and I guess from a research perspective, all my research was conducted on these large cohort studies that have been collected decades ago now and so the participants are my age. So, I’m using their data from when they were younger and I think it will look completely different if we were to do the same thing now when we have technology. So, I don’t know what that looks like and I hope one day we will.
And I think from a personal perspective, my brother’s autistic and he really struggles with social connection and having Instagram and an outlet where he can share his – the pictures that he takes and he can talk to me and to his friends and to his family, has completely shifted his wellbeing, really. So – and that’s just obviously an anecdotal thing, but I think to have these, yeah, blanket statements of saying how dangerous it is to be on your phone, I’m sure there definitely are dangers and addiction is definitely involved, but I think also it can be very useful to people and maybe to certain groups of people that wouldn’t have access to being connected to others in real life, I suppose.
Dr Ally Jaffee That’s such a beautiful anecdote. So, thank you for sharing that. And it really aligns with a conversation I had with the organisation Shout, who are a suicide prevention tech service. And they actually collected data that found that their – one of their highest users – user groups are of the old ADHD group because they don’t want to speak to someone on the phone if they’re struggling and texting saying, “I’m struggling” or “I’m feeling suicidal” is actually what’s in their means and something that they feel able to do. So, I think it’s about no one-size-fits-all and really just allowing people to use what’s, you know, low-hanging fruit and available to them without demonising it and realising that everyone is different. So, thank you for sharing that.
And I guess, we’ll start to draw it to a close. So, I just want to end on asking each of you, and I’ll share mine as well, three tips, if you can do that, on how to improve social connection, and it can be personal, so what do you do to improve social connection on a daily or weekly basis? Dr Keri Wong Three tips is quite a lot. Dr Ally Jaffee Okay, so let’s not do three. Dr Keri Wong I got one that I’d love to try, I’ve yet to try, but I’ve heard that it – you know, I’ve heard it and I thought is – it’s a great idea, which is to connect with people or ask maybe one individual out almost for a walk-in nature to connect once a week. So, I heard that that was something that, you know, someone else had done. They would go on a hike, obviously a bit limited in London, but, you know, if you were just, you know, and to invite an individual that you haven’t connected with for a long time, once a week, a different individual, to go for a walk and I thought that that sounded really wholesome. So, I might give that a try, but generally, I usually find activities where we can do together or explore new things together to try and meet up with friends and improve social connection, so, yeah.
Dr Ally Jaffee Perfect. I love a walk and talk. And they actually say that shoulder-to-shoulder listening is far less intimidating than if you’re, you know, sat across someone having to make eye contact the whole time at a coffee or whatever. So, really resonate with that. And what about you, Katherine? However many tips you want to provide us with. Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah, it’s hard. It’s really hard when you think about your own life. And it’s – they say that about driving as well, that driving is much easier to talk because you are side-to-side. I think that’s a really good question. I think maybe my tip would be when you are having a social interaction or you have a chance to meet up with someone is trying to make that as meaningful to you as you can. So, I think it’s very easy to talk about very trivial things and chat away about politics and the weather and everything, but someone said to me recently that they would ask on a date, a friend date or a romantic date for if they remembered their 18th birthday and what they did on their 18th birthday? And what you can tell from someone’s response from that I thought was really, really interesting. So, maybe just asking quite, yeah, in-depth que – not invasive questions, but yeah, interesting questions and hearing people’s responses I think can be really connecting.
Dr Ally Jaffee I’m going to take that tip. That will be funny stories, I’m sure. And what about you, Henry? Dr Henry Aughterson That’s great. I love that question. I’m not actually sure if I could answer it, which maybe points to what I was doing on my 18th birthday, but few tips. So, I think finding, kind of, local groups. I love, kind of, participating in local, kind of, community groups. We – again, we moved out of London and moved to a town on the seaside. I’ve joined a choir, I do a football group, so ru – I do a running group as well, so – when I can. So, joining groups like that, it’s – I think it’s great. You know, you’re bonding over shared activity, again, and it can be a lot less intent – a lot less intense than one-on-one stuff. As Keri said, obviously going for a walk with a friend’s great, also phone calls. Phone calls are very underrated, I think. I feel like the older generation is much better at this, but – be – probably because people just message so much, but actually, having a phone call with someone is that, kind of, in between of messaging and, you know, meeting up in-person and you can really connect with someone, especially someone who, you know, you don’t live in the same, kind of, place as anymore.
I often use my Sundays to, kind of, plan in social things for the next week. So, using your Sunday, if you work or go to school Monday to Friday, can be a really helpful day. And then just to give a total flipside answer as well, because it massively applies to me, is also learning to say no to the right things as well and, you know, socialising in a smart way for you. And if you’re someone that says yes to a lot of things and struggles to say no to things, it’s about training that. It’s something that you can practice that, and it takes years, but, you – you know, you learn to say no to the things that, kind of, sap energy from you, basically. And I think it’s important to ask yourself that question, is this experience going to nourish me or is this experience actually going to, kind of, drain me quite a lot? And sometimes we all have to do things that drain us occasionally and, you know, things we have to show up for, absolutely. But if we’re doing things repeatedly over and over again with particular groups or particular people or particular activities that are not adding to our life and are not nourishing us, it’s completely okay to say no. You have complete control over your own time. And that will be hard at first because you’ve, sort of, trained your brain to say yes to everything. So, it will take practice, you – it will be difficult at first, but it does get easier. And then you’re kind of, you know, you’re being your most authentic self. So, I think, you know, the right people in your life eventually, kind of, understand that. And it’s a bit less exhausting because you’re being your, kind of, honest, most authentic self about what you do and don’t want to do. So, I think that’s a really important skill to, kind of, train, but it does take some time.
Dr Ally Jaffee Definitely a work in progress with that. I totally align with that last point. And I’m trying to be as intentional as possible with my time, but, you know, you can say yes to too much and sometimes it’s too late to pull out and you have to honour those commitments. But I just wanted to share my tips. So, I’d say when I go for a meal or for a coffee with a friend, I try and have no phones on the table because I find it really distracting. So, I get quite strange about it and I don’t even know if they’ve picked up on it, but if their phone is facing upwards, so the screen is facing, I’ll – in the beginning, ‘cause I didn’t have the language to say why it was bothering, I’d just say, “Oh, the glare in my eyes, or the light in my eyes, could you mind flipping it over, I’m finding it distracting?” And now that I’m owning more that I just want to have that in-depth connection, I’ll be like, “Do you mind putting your phone away? Unless it’s – can you put it on vibrate, unless it’s an emergency ‘cause I find it really distracting?” And yeah, they’ve warmed to that now and they’re still sometimes like, “What’s wrong with you?” But I find that really useful so I can just be in the moment with someone and feel like if I’m speaking, they are actually paying attention and vice versa.
And I also agree about the phone calls. It’s really a wonderful tool that we have and sometimes they’re not able to fit into my schedule. So, I’m quite big on the voice note function on WhatsApp. So, I’m really big on catching up with people from all over the world using voice notes. Dr Ally Jaffee And then finally, just coming back to the commercial determinants of loneliness, I do believe that convenience services like Deliveroo and all these things that we have are amazing, but actually they can reduce your chances of smiling at a stranger or saying thank you to the person at a checkout. So, when I can, I do try and go to the shops myself to purchase something and if I’m in the mood to be friendly, then I am. And it’s a really nice interaction, but not to put pressure on yourself if you don’t want to speak to someone in a supermarket, but it’s just really nice to be in your neighbourhood and in those public spaces and not always rely on the convenience of an app saying, “Yes, I’ll deliver your bananas and milk in ten minutes.” So, that would be it from me and so, just wanted to say a huge thank you to all of you for your incredible insights day. It’s been a really rich conversation discussing social isolation versus loneliness, the measurements of how to look at loneliness, loneliness across COVID, in the workplace, we’ve really covered so much and even, you know, got to touch upon social media. And so, I just wanted to say thank you and if you can go around and say where people can keep up with your work on social media and any things upcoming, like research papers that are coming out that you want people to be aware of. So, starting with you, Keri.
Dr Keri Wong Great. You can follow my work on both, this is X and Bluesky, it’s @DrKeriWong. And the latest, sort of, paper we’re – or series of papers that’s coming out is, as I mentioned right at the beginning, which is a special issue looking at the role of physical environments on young – children and young people’s psychosocial outcomes, and this is out in ACAMH as well. So, next month, what – was the – watch out for it. Dr Ally Jaffee Fantastic.
Dr Katherine Thompson Yeah, you can find me on Bluesky. I think it’s KT, as in the letters, ktnthompson, and my paper came out on the overlap between social isolation and mental health relatively recently in the last few months. So, you can check that out. Dr Henry Aughterson Great, yeah. So, my kind of research, you can find just looking up my name and Google Scholar and I’m quite active on Instagram now, so doctor_mentalhealth, and that’s just a page with, kind of, mental health, kind of, tips, evidence-based mental health tips, things like that. So, yeah, give it a follow if that interests you.
Dr Ally Jaffee And I’m @drallyjaffee on LinkedIn, Instagram, TikTok, and pretty much everywhere. And you can also follow Chimo Trust, C-h-i-m-o, to see the wonderful work we’re doing with charities and social prescribing for young people. So, thank you all so much. We’ll bring this webinar to a close now.